Five myths holding you back from telling your story
So you feel like you have a story tell, yet something is holding you back... what is it?
It could be as simple as a belief or assumption that simply isn't true. So let's call out some of those fears and doubts and do away with them. After all, part of storytelling is about re-writing old beliefs and assumptions, and uncovering new truths for ourselves.
Here are some common myths about personal storytelling that you can henceforth consider busted and dusted.
Myth #1 All your stories are true stories.
Stories are just that: stories. They’re based in our own perception. They hinge on your worldview. They can change.
And that’s a good thing. It means you're not stuck with old labels, messages or limitations that have been holding you back. it means it's up to you to define who you are, today, on your own terms.
It means you can create something new.
Myth #2 You only have one good story to tell.
We’re all complex people with lots of different experiences, thoughts and ideas. One story does not a person make. The story of my heart is not my only story - not by a long shot. But it’s a ‘signature story’ - a story that tells you something important about me. A story I needed to tell.
Which of your many stories do you need to tell first? That’s up for you to decide.
Myth #3 Nobody is listening, and nobody cares. OR, Everybody is listening and everybody is judging.
The truth is somewhere in between. Some people care, others don’t. But how much does that matter, really? How much will you let it matter? Liberation comes when you are willing to speak up no matter who is sitting in the audience, when you are willing to share your story whether it’s a packed house or an empty theatre. Liberation comes when you share the truth of yourself, no matter who you think is listening. Storytelling is your gateway to do this.
Myth #4 You have to be a good writer to be a storyteller.
Stories can come in many forms. But as you can probably tell, I am all for writing this stuff down.
Writing can put you in touch with your inner stories in a very powerful, direct way. Luckily, you don’t have to consider yourself a “writer” to do it.
In fact, you can be terrible at writing and completely “non-creative” and still master the art and skill of sharing your stories with the world. (In fact, it might even be easier for you to write than those who are used to critiquing and polishing their own work.)
Think you're not a writer? Try this. Take a pen and a notebook. Write something, anything, whatever comes to your mind. Hey, you did it! You can write after all! And if you read what you wrote and decide it sucks? Well, congratulations. Because as I've said before, writing something, reading it and deciding it sucks is basically the definition of a writer.
Myth #5 You can't tell the story until you've figured out the ending.
It's drilled into us that every story has a beginning, a middle and an end. But you can start telling your story now, even while you're in the middle of creating it. This, my friends, is where the real heart and soul of storytelling lives: in sharing the messy, unfinished, unresolved parts.
You don't have to wait until your story feels complete. Start writing about where you're at, start sharing where you've come from, and get creative with the chapters that have yet to come.
This honest, vulnerable place is where storytelling is its most useful, but also its most courageous.
Because your greatest act of courage isn't just telling where you've been. It's writing what comes next.
Speaking of what comes next... are you wondering how to put this stuff into practice? I've developed a digital workbook to walk you through personal storytelling. I guide you through the full storytelling experience, with practical, easy and fun exercises that will bring out your inner storyteller. Develop clarity and confidence with your inner stories, and find the courage to show the world who you really are. Find out how you can Share Your Story.